romance

Choosing the Perfect Proposal Destination: 3 Top Tips

Proposing abroad adds magic to the moment — but picking the right spot can be tricky. These tips will help you create a moment worth saying yes to.

A man proposes to his boyfriend down on one knee in Kyoto, Japan, amid pink cherry blossoms

The moment you get down on one knee to pop the question to your significant other deserves a magical location unlike any other. For many, that means heading abroad — to somewhere with the perfect climate, stunning scenery and plenty of lively spots to celebrate your engagement together.

With so many destinations to choose from, picking the right one can feel tricky — and even potentially overwhelming if you don’t know what to look for. To help ease your nerves and make it a stress-free process, here are my top tips to follow to guide you toward the proposal location of your dreams.

A man on one knee proposes to his girlfriend in the snow in Lapland, with a reindeer and cabin nearby, and the Northern Lights streaking above

1. Pick somewhere significant.

Think back over the history of your relationship. Perhaps you met in a foreign country, took a special holiday together, or share dreams of the same bucket list location you’d both love to visit. Choosing a destination that’s significant to you and your other half is guaranteed to make for a meaningful proposal that feels unique to your love story.

Want to make it even more magical? Travel to your chosen destination for Valentine’s Day, your anniversary or Christmas. If you don’t usually take trips for these occasions, your partner may catch wind of your plans — in which case, you may want to travel during the off-peak season instead to keep the big moment a surprise. Not only will this approach keep your love guessing, but you’ll likely benefit from reduced costs, leaving more money in your budget to make the trip one to treasure.

READ: Planning a Wedding in the UK

A couple toasts red wine at a picnic in the Champs de Mars in Paris, by the Eiffel Tower

2. Look for unusual activities.

Enjoying some fun activities together will help to build the excitement and romance between you both in time for your proposal. You might want to try something new and thrilling — like skiing in Switzerland, or skydiving in New Zealand. Or plan something more relaxed, like a picnic beneath the Eiffel Tower or swimming in crystal-clear Caribbean waters. Just make sure your plans are different enough from your usual activities to make the trip a memorable one from start to finish.

Of course, there’s something to be said for simply taking it easy, too. Delicious food, sunny skies and breathtaking views will help to relax you both. In fact, a quiet moment spent in a beautiful location may work wonders for those pre-proposal nerves.

READ: A Romantic Getaway in Aspen

A man gets down on one knee and proposes to his boyfriend at a temple in Egypt

3. Consider cultural norms

It’s important to research your chosen destination before planning your proposal, as some countries are more conservative than others when it comes to things like holding hands, hugging and kissing, or celebrating with an alcoholic beverage in public. While this shouldn’t stop you from proposing in a place that’s special to you, it does mean that you’ll need to be aware of cultural norms, and plan your proposal to be in line with local rules and etiquette expectations.

The UAE, Egypt, Indonesia and India, for example, each have public decency laws or social guidelines around being affectionate in public with one another in public. If you want to get engaged at one of these locations, it’s best to plan a private proposal. It’ll only help to make the moment that much more intimate and meaningful.

READ: The Best Place to Make Out in Public in India

A man nervously shows a Customs agent in Morocco the engagement ring he has brought, while a cat watches on

Keeping the ring safe

It might be the least fun part of planning the proposal, but knowing what you need to do to keep the ring safe is essential.  Thwarted plans as a result of a lost diamond is a nightmare scenario for any proposer. It’s a good idea to get the ring insured before traveling, research your airline’s security policies, and look into the customs regulations for your chosen destination. 

Make sure you store the ring properly, too.  It’s best to keep it securely tucked away in your hand luggage, to protect from damage, loss or, in extreme circumstances, theft.

A woman on one knee proposes to her girlfriend at Machu Picchu in Peru, while an alpaca watches

Proposing Abroad

Once you’ve covered the logistics of getting you, your partner and the all-important ring to your destination safely, all that’s left to do is plan the finishing touches your loved one will appreciate. Whether it’s floral décor, a champagne picnic or a concealed photographer ready to capture your special moment — or perhaps all three of those things — going that extra mile will show your significant other how much you really care. –Samantha Lewis

Setting a Timeline for Your UK Wedding: What to Plan and When

Planning a UK destination wedding? This month-by-month wedding timeline breaks down exactly what to do — from venues and vendors to visas and veils.

A bride and groom hold hands atop a windy cliffside in the UK, with a chapel up the hill

Let’s face it — planning a wedding can feel like juggling flaming torches while trying not to spill your prosecco. Add in the glorious chaos of a destination wedding in the UK, and you’re suddenly Googling “how to politely elope.” But take a breath. With a little organization and the right timeline, your British bash can be as magical as a Colin Firth rom-com.

Here’s your month-by-month guide to pulling off a UK wedding that’s as smooth as clotted cream.

A gay couple in period dress toast champagne at their wedding at a castle in the UK

12–18 Months Before: Book It Like Beckham

If your engagement is longer than waiting for a new season of Bridgerton, congrats — you’ve got time to breathe. But not too deeply, because your venue? It’s already halfway booked up by couples named Pippa and Giles. Top UK venues fill up fast — we’re talking two years in advance — so don’t dawdle.

Before you get lost in the Pinterest black hole of table décor, lock down your guest count and budget. (Yes, even your third cousin’s new boyfriend who won’t stop talking about his pet rats might need a seat.)

The average cost of a wedding venue in the UK will run you £9,000–£11,000 ($12,200–$14,900), and that’s before you’ve added a single sausage roll.

If you’re hiring a planner, bring them on now. This is your co-captain for the chaos. Choose wisely.

A bride and groom dance while guest circle them at a Bridgerton-themed wedding

9–12 Months Before: Lights, Camera, Catering

You’ve got a venue. You’ve got a date. You’re practically Kate and Wills. Now it’s time to book your VIPs: the caterer (pies or posh?), photographer (editorial or soft focus?), and entertainment (string quartet or DJ who refuses to play “Wonderwall”).

This is also dress/suit time, especially if you’re going bespoke or need major alterations. Same goes for glam — book your hair and makeup artists now, before they’re swept away by another bride who planned everything six years ago.

And please — make a wedding website. Especially for a UK wedding, where guests may need to navigate train timetables, weird voltage plugs, and the eternal mystery of what “half board” means. Include local hotels, transportation options, and even a pub recommendation or two.

At a wedding cake tasting, a woman puts frosting on a man's nose while both laugh

6–9 Months Before: Cake It ’Til You Make It

Now we’re in the fun zone. Cake tastings, flower choices, table décor — all the frilly bits that make your day feel like you.

If you can swing a planning trip to the UK, do it now. You’ll get to sniff the blooms, taste the cake, and remember that your wedding is happening in a real, actual place and not just a shared Google doc.

Also: honeymoon planning time! Whether you’re heading straight to the Cotswolds for a cozy fireside escape or hitting up Edinburgh for whisky-fueled romance, start mapping it out. There are so many beautiful places to explore in the UK that are just a train ride away.

A lesbian couple finalize their wedding seating chart, while a cat sleeps nearby

The Final 6 Months: Legal Stuff and Last Touches

Planning to legally marry in the UK? If you’re not a British citizen, you’ll need a marriage visa — and no, it doesn’t come gift-wrapped. Apply for a marriage visa exactly three months before your wedding. You can’t do it earlier, and processing can take up to three weeks, so time it right.

Beyond bureaucracy, this is final-touch time:

  • Confirm the seating chart (yes, Uncle Barry is still coming)

  • Break in your wedding shoes (or suffer the hobble of regret)

  • Get the rings cleaned

  • Make a packing list

  • Panic briefly, then remember: You’ve got this

A bride and groom hold hands and face each other by a stained glass window

Tie the Knot in the UK

From misty moors to manor houses, cliffside chapels to converted cinemas, the UK has a venue for every vibe — and a wedding industry that knows its stuff. Whether you’re dreaming of kilts, castles, or a seaside knees-up with fish and chips, your British wedding can be anything but basic.

So here’s to love, as well as legal paperwork and logistics. You bring the vision. The UK has plenty to make your dreams a reality. –Melanie Huff

How to Plan a Romantic and Luxurious Getaway to Aspen

From skiing Aspen Mountain to spa days at the St. Regis, private fireside dinners, and stays at Hotel Jerome and The Little Nell, this guide unlocks the most romantic and luxurious experiences in Aspen.

A man holds up a woman by her legs as she wraps her arms around his head and kisses him by a snowy Aspen mountain

Tucked high in the Colorado Rockies, Aspen isn’t just about the ski scene (though, yes, the powder is as perfect as you’ve heard). 

It’s a town where mountain air meets high-end indulgence, where you can spend your morning on the slopes and your evening sipping champagne fireside. 

Beyond the adventure, Aspen delivers serious romance with its charming streets, award-winning restaurants, plush accommodations and cultural gems that’ll sweep you off your snow-dusted feet.

Whether you’re celebrating a milestone or just need an excuse to spoil your favorite person, Aspen is your ticket to a getaway that feels straight out of a fairytale. All it takes is a little planning — and a touch of insider know-how. In this guide, we’ll share the tips and inspiration you need to craft an unforgettable romantic escape, full of swoon-worthy moments and luxe surprises.

The valley of the town of Aspen at night

Choosing the Perfect Time to Visit Aspen

When it comes to Aspen, timing matters. The town transforms with the seasons, each offering its own charm.

A lake in Aspen in the fall, with the trees a golden yellow

Seasonal Highlights in Aspen

  • Winter (December–March): Snow-capped peaks, skiing adventures and cozy fireside evenings

  • Spring (April–June): Blossoming flowers, fewer crowds and mild weather

  • Summer (July–September): Warm, sunny days, ideal for hiking and picnics

  • Fall (October–November): Vibrant foliage and serene landscapes for romantic photoshoots

A band performs at the Aspen Winter Music Series

Special Events in Aspen for Couples to Enjoy

The 2025 Winter Music Series adds cultural sophistication to Aspen’s natural splendor. The series opens on February 7, with acclaimed pianist Nikolai Lugansky performing classical masterpieces. 

The Grammy-winning Takács String Quartet follows on March 6, and renowned pianist Garrick Ohlsson concludes the season on March 20. All performances begin at 6:30 p.m. in the intimate Harris Concert Hall.  

Remède Spa at the St. Regis Aspen is pure mountain luxury — think of it as the crown jewel of Aspen’s wellness scene. According to the Aspen Chamber Resort Association, this full-scale resort spa goes above and beyond the city’s charming boutique day spas, offering an immersive experience that’s hard to top.

Your escape begins with a complete wellness circuit designed to refresh and rejuvenate. Get your heart pumping in the state-of-the-art fitness center, then melt away any tension with a visit to the hot tub, steamroom and cutting-edge infrared sauna. It’s the perfect balance of invigorating and indulgent.

A creek and building for gatherings in Aspen, Colorado

Aspen’s Elite Accommodations

Aspen’s legendary hospitality scene offers an array of exceptional accommodations, each promising its own version of mountain luxury. From historic hotels to contemporary resorts, every property provides a scenic backdrop for your romantic escape.

Facade of the Little Nell hotel in the snow in Aspen, Colorado

The Little Nell

The Crown Jewels: Five-Star Resorts in Aspen

With an unrivaled setting at the foot of Aspen Mountain, the Little Nell is the only Forbes five-star, five-diamond hotel in Aspen. This intimate luxury resort brings the soul of Aspen to life with its ski-in/ski-out access and sophisticated charm.

The property’s Element 47 restaurant has earned its place as a culinary destination. Its sommelier-led wine cellar tours provide an exclusive glimpse into one of the country’s most impressive collections.

The round pool and chaise longues at the red brick St. Regis Aspen Resort

St. Regis Aspen Resort

The majestic St. Regis Aspen Resort, with its striking red brick façade and mountain backdrop, embodies timeless elegance. 

Beyond its luxurious rooms, the resort captivates guests with distinctive traditions like evening champagne sabering and their signature Bloody Mary ritual. The Velvet Buck restaurant serves refined mountain cuisine in a sophisticated setting. And, as mentioned earlier, the Remède Spa provides world-class treatments. 

Brown couches, white chairs, red carpet with gray diamonds and a fireplace in the lobby of Hotel Jerome in Aspen

Hotel Jerome

Boutique Luxury: Character Meets Comfort

Hotel Jerome weaves Aspen’s story into every detail, carrying on a legacy more than 135 years in the making.

This historic property seamlessly blends Wild West heritage with contemporary luxury, featuring rooms adorned with cashmere curtains and leather furnishings. The hotel’s living room has become the toast of Aspen’s social scene, while Felix Roasting Co. offers an ornate setting for your morning caffeine fix.

The outdoor swimming pool at Limelight hotel in Aspen, Colorado

Limelight

Limelight provides a fresh take on mountain luxury with its contemporary design and vibrant atmosphere. 

Its 126 rooms offer modern comfort with classic alpine touches, while the hotel’s partnership with Audi ensures guests travel in style. 

The property’s lounge has become a local favorite for live music and après-ski gatherings.

A couple takes a break from hiking in the mountains and sits down together

Crafting Magical Moments in Aspen

Transform your mountain getaway into an unforgettable experience with thoughtfully planned surprises that capture the essence of romance in the Rockies.

A teardrop-shaped multifaceted pink diamond

The Gift of Timeless Elegance 

Many luxury brands showcase an exquisite selection of gemstones, including some of the rarest diamonds. In fact, diamonds come in 12 mesmerizing colors, with subtle variations in intensity and secondary hues that create over 230 unique combinations.

According to Leibish, a specialist in natural colored diamonds and high-end gemstones, these vibrant stones are the rarest of the rare — representing just a tiny fraction of the world’s diamond production. It’s this exceptional scarcity that makes colored diamonds the ultimate expression of love and luxury.

For a romantic and savvy choice, consider pink diamonds. These gems gracefully blend vibrant hues with feminine elegance and are among the most sought-after colored diamonds. Their charm goes beyond beauty — they’ve consistently proven to be a smart investment.

The town of Aspen, Colorado and the ski run above it

Personalized Adventures

Treat your partner to an exclusive after-hours gallery tour at Aspen’s renowned art venues. These private experiences allow you to immerse in the town’s vibrant art scene without the usual crowds, creating a truly memorable outing.

For a dose of adventure, plan a day packed with outdoor activities that let you soak up Aspen’s world-famous natural beauty. Of course, skiing is a must — this is one of the premier ski destinations in the United States, after all. With four major ski areas and 5,300 acres of skiable terrain, there’s plenty of powder to explore:

  • Aspen Mountain (Ajax): Perfect for seasoned skiers

  • Aspen Highlands: Known for the Highland Bowl’s steep descents, offering an adrenaline rush at 12,392 feet above sea level

  • Buttermilk Mountain: Home of the Winter X Games, catering to all skill levels

Finally, cap off the day with an intimate, chef-prepared dinner by the glow of a crackling fire. This cozy, luxurious setting is the perfect way to unwind, savor the moment, and create memories you’ll treasure long after you’ve left the mountains behind.

A chairlift takes skiers up the mountain at Aspen in Colorado

Travel to Aspen FAQs

How many days do you need for Aspen?

A week in Aspen offers ample time to explore its diverse attractions, whether you’re into outdoor adventures, art or local cuisine. With plenty of events, including the Winter X Games at Buttermilk and Wintersköl on Aspen Mountain, there’s always something exciting to experience.

Is Aspen a good place to honeymoon?

Aspen is an ideal honeymoon destination, offering a romantic setting year-round. The town offers world-class skiing in winter and scenic hiking trails in the summer. It provides the perfect balance of adventure and romance for newlyweds. Aspen also boasts luxurious resorts, intimate spas and fine dining.

Is Aspen a wealthy city?

Yes, Aspen is known for its affluence. With a significant portion of its population possessing a net worth of over $30 million, it’s considered a playground for the wealthy. The area is home to many of the ultrarich, particularly in the exclusive Red Mountain neighborhood known as “Billionaire Mountain.”

A man puts his arms around a woman along a street in Aspen, Colorado in the winter

Romantic Aspen 

While the champagne buzz may fade and ski tracks vanish under fresh powder, the genuine connections made in this mountain paradise will endure. These moments will echo far beyond your return home.

Perhaps that’s the real essence of luxury — not the thread count of the sheets or the vintage of the wine. Instead, it’s the priceless gift of undivided attention and shared wonder in one of nature’s most spectacular settings. –Mashum Mollah 

The Strange History of Valentine’s Day

From Lupercalia, where young men whipped eager women in the streets of ancient Rome, to St. Valentine’s secret weddings.

Valentine's Day wasn't always about cupids and hearts — or even love.

Valentine’s Day is much more than just conversation hearts, boxes of chocolates, flowers and cards. There are some downright outlandish origins to this holiday.

After the flagellation ceremony, men would draw women’s names from an urn — and that would be their sexual partner for the year.

Valentine’s Day dates back to a couple of Roman festivals.

The Romans celebrated two ritual festivals that formed the foundation for the holiday we know as Valentine’s Day. Februalia was a purification rite, which occurred on February 14 and gave the month of February its name. It was later combined with Lupercalia, which took place on February 15.

Valentine’s Day as we know it began with an unusual Roman fertility rite.

The crazed men, nude save for a goatskin loincloth, would take the hides of slain animals cut into strips and flagellate the women of the village in hopes of bestowing fertility.

This someecard points out just how strange Lupercalia was.

Lupercalia involved some bizarre practices, including beating women with animal pelts.

For this affair, young Roman men would congregate in the Lupercal, the sacred cave in the mountains where Romulus and Remus, the twins who suckled the she-wolf Lupa, were supposedly reared. Romulus would later found Rome and sacrifice Remus, but that’s another story.

The Luperci, the Brotherhood of the Wolf, would sacrifice a dog for purity and a goat for fertility.

Ancient Romans believed being whipped by blood-soaked animal skins would help you get knocked up.

The crazed men, nude save for a goatskin loincloth, would take the hides of the slain animals that had been cut into strips and flagellate the women of the village in hopes of bestowing fertility.

 

Saint Valentine has become the patron saint of love.

Valentine was also the patron saint of epileptics.

Saint Valentine performed secret marriages when the institution was outlawed.

In this painting by David Teniers III, Valentine receives a rosary from the Virgin Mary.

During the 3rd century CE, Roman Emperor Claudius II, wanting to increase the size and strength of his military empire, saw marriage as an obstacle. He believed that men were unwilling to fight due to their strong attachment to their wives and families. In an effort to circumvent this, he forbade all future marriages and engagements.

Whether Valentine was a bishop or priest has been lost to history, but he began performing clandestine ceremonies. He was soon discovered and imprisoned for his betrayal.

His legend is associated with having sent a note to his jailer’s daughter on the eve of his execution, signed, “From Your Valentine.” No historical evidence exists to back the authenticity of this story, though.

Valentine was beheaded, died a martyr and in death was elevated to the patron saint of love.

The skull of Saint Valentine resides in the Basilica of Santa Maria in Cosmedin in Rome, Italy.

Pope Gelasius I used an ingenious sleight of hand, merging the pagan Lupercalia with the feast of Saint Valentine into a single holiday celebrated on February 14.

 

The Cadbury boys found a way to extract a delicious byproduct of cocoa — what we know know and love as chocolate.

Cadbury created the first chocolate candies — and the first heart-shaped box of chocolates.

One of the first heart-shaped box of chocolates

In 1824, John Cadbury, an English proprietor and founder of the Cadbury candy empire, opened a tea and coffee shop in Bournville, Birmingham, England. His shop also sold drinking chocolate, which he prepared using a mortar and pestle. This was a luxury item even among the upper class. The resulting beverage was coarse and grainy but popular.

A vintage ad for Cadbury chocolate

Cadbury’s sons Richard and George visited the Van Houten factory in Amsterdam, the Netherlands, which specialized in the manufacture of cocoa powder. The brothers integrated this method into their manufacturing facility. The process allowed them to extract pure cocoa butter from pressing cocoa beans and adding sugar, reducing its bitter taste. Cadbury used this byproduct to produce several varieties of “eating chocolates.”

The retail division of the business was passed on to Richard in 1861, who recognized a great marketing opportunity and revolutionized sales by packaging Cadbury chocolates in the world’s first heart-shaped box for Valentine’s Day. The box could be kept and used to store mementos after the chocolates had been eaten.

 

Victorians began the tradition of sending valentines — some of which were downright cruel.

Do you remember making a mailbox to hold your cards and exchanging valentines with your classmates in elementary school, or perhaps receiving a pink or red carnation in high school? I did accrue a fair amount of cards through my formative years, though I do remember wishing I would get a carnation from a secret admirer.

Valentines pre-date Hallmark and were the preferred token to celebrate romantic love by the prudish 19th century Victorians in England. The first mass-market cards were introduced then, and the penny post made it possible to send them easily and inexpensively.

Plus, you could send notes anonymously, something the Victorians prized. This allowed them not only to exchange serious or humorous cards but downright mean-spirited ones as well, aptly called vinegar valentines.

“Senders would use the anonymity of the card to comment on the inappropriate behavior of a couple or the distasteful political views of a feminist friend,” Slate writes. “Women seemed to be the targets of many of the surviving examples, but balding men, pretentious artists and poets, and smelly fat guys made appearances as well.”

So the next time you send a valentine to a loved one, think about how whipped women, a beheaded saint and mean, anonymous cards are all part of this holiday. –Duke

Love Spells From the Gypsies

How to cast a love spell to make someone fall in love with you — or fall out of love with you. Plus, secrets from the Roma that will reveal your future spouse!

Why are these Gypsies so happy? Cuz their love spells worked!

Gypsies, the apparently un-PC (but somehow fitting) term for the Roma, are said to have originated in North India, including what are now the states of Rajasthan and Punjab. A nomadic people, they traveled around in horse-drawn caravans and became known for their magical prowess. They’re especially gifted when it comes to divination, curses and love magic.

Here are some Gypsy love spells to win that special person’s heart, catch a glimpse of your future spouse — or to chase away an unwanted suitor. 

If you dream of your love, then you will surely marry him or her.

Spell to Make Your Lover More Attentive

Sit before a dying fire and gaze into it, clearing your mind of all but thoughts of your lover.

Have a small basket of laurel leaves between your knees.

Keeping your gaze fixed on the fire, dip your left hand into the basket, take out a handful of leaves, and toss them onto the fire. As they burst into flames, chant out loud the following:

“Laurel leaves that burn in the fire,
Draw unto me my heart’s desire.”

Wait until the flames have died down, then repeat the action. Do it a third time.

Within 24 hours, your lover will come to visit you.

 

Spell to Dream of the One You Will Marry

In the morning, as soon as you arise, peel a small lemon.

Keep two equal pieces of the peel, each about the size of a half-dollar. Place the pieces with the insides together and peel-side-out, and put them in your right-hand pocket or in your purse. Leave them there all day.

At night, when you undress for bed, take the peel from your pocket or purse and rub the legs of the bed with it. Then place both pieces of the peel under your pillow and lay down to sleep.

If you dream of your love, then you will surely marry him or her.

 

Spell to Attract a Specific Lover

Set a wineglass on the table.

Suspend a ring (traditionally your mother’s wedding ring, but any ring will do) from a length of red silk ribbon.

Holding the ribbon between your thumb and forefinger, with your elbow resting on the table, let the ring hang in the mouth of the wineglass like a pendulum. Try to keep the ring still.

In a loud, clear voice, call out your own name followed by the name of your would-be love. Repeat the name of your love twice more (three times in all).

Then, spelling out his or her name, allow the ring to swing until it clinks against the side of the wineglass, once for each letter.

Now take the ribbon and tie it about your neck, allowing the ring to hang down on your chest over your heart. Wear it for three weeks.

Every Friday, repeat the above ritual. By the end of the third week, if it is meant to be, then the loved one will come to you. 

Spell to Reveal Your Future Spouse’s Initials

Find the brightest red apple with the longest stem you can (from anywhere except off your own tree).

Sit by the fire and hold the apple by the stem as you gently twist it. For each twist given, state a letter of the alphabet (in order). The letter called out as the stem breaks free is your spouse’s first initial.

Toss the stem into the fire.

Then peel the apple skin off carefully in one long peel. If you mess up,you have to start again with a new apple, so be careful.

When done, take the peel in your left hand and toss it over your shoulder so that it lands on the ground behind you. Turn around and see what letter’s shape the peel has taken. That’s the first letter of your future spouse’s last name.

If the apple peel should break when thrown, that means it’s going to be a stormy relationship and that there will most likely be more than one instance in which you will consider calling the whole thing off.

Spell to View Your Future Spouse

In a room on a table covered with a black cloth, place a clear goblet of water filled to the brim.

On the goblet’s left, burn a white candle. This should be the only light in the closed, silent room.

On the right, burn frankincense, jasmine or sandalwood incense.

Close your eyes and relax by taking a few deep breaths, as you envision the faces of possible spouses in front of you.

Keep your eyes closed as you repeat the following three times:

“Scry, scry, scry for me
Bring the face that I must see.
Let me gaze on my future mate,
To know which lover will be my fate.”

Clear your mind of everything so that you are ready to accept whatever you see. When ready, open your eyes and gaze down into the water and you’ll glimpse the face of the one who will become your spouse.

 

Spell for Getting Rid of an Unwanted Suitor

Take a small square of paper and write on it the name of the annoying would-be lover. Use black ink. It’s best to use a feather quill, if possible. Let the ink dry.

Then light a white candle and burn the piece of paper in its flame over a cauldron or ashtray while thinking of the person running away from you.

Gather the ashes into a small bag and carry them out to a hillside. There you must place the ashes on the upturned palm of your right hand and hold it up, saying:

“Winds of the North, East, South and West,
Carry these affections to where they’ll be best.
Let her/his heart be open and free,
And let her/his mind be away from me.”

Then blow on the ashes so they scatter to the winds.

Spell to Give Someone the Courage to Admit Their Love for You

This should be done at the same hour on seven consecutive Fridays, ending on the one closest to the full moon — not just after.

Take a pink candle and mark six rings around it, at equal distances apart. This will give you seven sections of a candle.

Light the candle and call out the name of the one you think loves you.

Then say:

“Gana, be with me in all that I do.
Gana, please bring me a love who is true.
Give him/her the strength to put into words
His/her feelings, and sing like the song of the birds.”

(Gana is another name for Diana, the Roman goddess of the moon.)

Think about the person for a few moments — picture them coming to you and declaring their love.

Then repeat the chant. Keep doing this until the candle has burned down to the first line. Then extinguish the candle (by pinching it out — never by blowing; it helps to wet your fingers first) and put it away till next week.

On the final week, keep it lit until the candle burns itself out. –Wally

 

Sources: MojoMoon and In the Dark Book of Shadows